Has divorce gone viral?
A recent study shows that divorce is contagious and can spread—through family, friends and co-workers. In fact, the researchers found that couples whose close friends had split were 75 percent more likely to get divorced themselves. They call this trend “divorce clustering.” Surely this is disturbing news for many married folks who have friends who are divorcing.
The team of researchers, led by Rose McDermott at Brown University, reviewed material from a study of 12,000 Massachusetts residents since 1948, and reached the conclusion that divorce is contagious. Their conclusions are startling and provocative, to say the least:
- If you have a divorced sibling, your chances of divorcing increase by 22%.
- If you have a divorced coworker, your chances of divorcing increase by 55%.
- If you have a divorced friend, your chances of divorcing increase by 33%.
Whether you agree with the conclusions of this study or not, they certainly raise a number of interesting questions. What does this really mean? What does this say about our social networks and coworkers? Is this a definitive study on whether divorce is “catching?” Not in my book.
But is there somewhat of a viral atmosphere out there with regard to divorce? One example cited was Al and Tipper Gore, who announced they were divorcing after 40+ years of marriage, and soon after that their daughter announced she was getting divorced.
How about Tiger Woods and Jesse James? Following the revelations about their affairs, how many people wondered, “If this could happen to someone as nice as Sandra Bullock, could it happen to me? Should I be snooping around and checking cell phone records and emails and Facebook chats?” Certainly those fears could contribute to a “viral” feeling atmosphere.
In the end, I disagree that divorce is “contagious” as it is described in this study. I think it’s more likely that if you watch a family member, friend, or co-worker go through a divorce and do well, and your marriage isn’t good, then you may explore that option for yourself. When a person makes the difficult decision to divorce, hopefully it will be based on the fact that the marriage is not good, and not on whether or not a friend, family member, or coworker has divorced.