Archive for July, 2010

Evidence of Grace: When the Marriage is Over But the Relationship Lives On . . .

I was tempted to title this article, “Miss Congeniality Wins Again,” but I suspect that Sandra Bullock doesn’t really see it that way, and I certainly don’t want to be insensitive or appear disrespectful. What I am is completely impressed and a bit in awe of how she handled herself through her recent personal and family crisis.

When most people hear the words “graceful” and “divorce” in the same sentence, they think to themselves, “Yah, right!” But Sandra Bullock’s handling of her situation is exactly that. She has modeled a “graceful divorce” for the rest of us.

Think about it.  She had …

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Is Divorce Contagious?

Has divorce gone viral?

A recent study shows that divorce is contagious and can spread—through family, friends and co-workers.  In fact, the researchers found that couples whose close friends had split were 75 percent more likely to get divorced themselves. They call this trend “divorce clustering.”   Surely this is disturbing news for many married folks who have friends who are divorcing.

The team of researchers, led by Rose McDermott at Brown University, reviewed material from a study of 12,000 Massachusetts residents since 1948, and reached the conclusion that divorce is contagious. Their conclusions are startling and provocative, to say the least:

If you …

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