Archive for April, 2010

Collaborate or Mediate? Part I

This is a question I’ve been getting from clients lately with increasing frequency.  When they make that decision to pursue divorce, and they want to go through that process as “gracefully” as possible, they have a number of choices.  There is no “one size fits all” way of divorcing, so their decision will be based on their personal situation, needs, and relationship with their spouse.

What they want to know, and often have a hard time grasping, is the difference between Collaboration and Mediation.

Here are a few ways the processes are similar:

Both are based on the interests, needs and goals of …

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Stalking – Be Wise, Don’t Minimize!

Recently there have been a number of sad and disturbing stories in the news about stalking crimes, including murder of stalking victims.  And recently I’ve had a number of clients who have definitely been victims of stalking behaviors by their “former” significant other.

As a bystander, I was able to see the red flags all over the place, and once I pointed out the classic stalking behavior to my client, you could almost see a shiver go through them. It is very scary to be on the other end of a stalker’s attention.

What exactly is stalking then?  The definition goes something …

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